Next week my 6-year-old daughter is playing in her second tournament.
Is it OK if her invisible friend helps her during the game?

I said I'd have to ask.

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Next week my 6-year-old daughter is playing in her second tournament.
Is it OK if her invisible friend helps her during the game?

I said I'd have to ask.

I'm sure it would be OK if her invisible friend remembered to not talk
and not move.

They must be a kick during bughouse games. =)

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Frisco Del Rosario
Editor
Scholastic Chess USA

Jud McCranie wrote:

Next week my 6-year-old daughter is playing in her second tournament.
Is it OK if her invisible friend helps her during the game?

Unless there are special rules at this tournament, I'm afraid not.
Players are generally not allowed to receive help.

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Anders Thulin ath*algonet.se http://www.algonet.se/~ath

This sounds like one of those "Chess Claus" questions. Maybe you should
ask her what the invisible friend's rating is before saying it's a good
idea.

I think I would tell her to think about her next move, when she has
decided on her move, then ask her invisible friend for guidance. The
number one problem children have is moving too fast. Tell her to give
her invisible friend at least 30 seconds to think. Say if she doesn't
hear back from the invisible friend in 30 seconds, but sees a better
move, then go with the better move!

Actually maybe I need an invisible friend too!

Marty

Jud McCranie wrote:
Next week my 6-year-old daughter is playing in her second tournament.
Is it OK if her invisible friend helps her during the game?

I said I'd have to ask.

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I think that six years old is a little too old to have an invisible friend. As
a father, I would worry a little bit about my childs grip on reality. I'm
talking in terms of mental health not in terms of creativity, inventing
stories, and dressing up and pretending which are ways of reaching out and
actually getting in touch with the real world. Each situation is different and
I just raise this issue as a concern not to be a spoiler.

On 06 Mar 2004 03:24:45 GMT, (PJDBAD) wrote:

I think that six years old is a little too old to have an invisible friend.

Your comment got me to wondering, so I did a search. I found this
"Researchers are currently proposing that the creation of 'Invisible
Friends' is a healthy, adaptive behavior in the 60% of all children
under eight who experience them."

http://www.theoservice.org/Family/family.htm

So at this point I think it is still OK. Thank you for your concern.

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On Fri, 05 Mar 2004 18:08:17 GMT, (Frisco Del
Rosario) wrote:

I'm sure it would be OK if her invisible friend remembered to not talk
and not move.

I think I can guarantee that the invisible friend will not be seen or
heard.

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Nah, it's pretty normal at that age. Kids imagine all sorts of stuff
(probably the least harmless is the common invisible friend...)

Matthew, who still misses his IF once in a while : )

"PJDBAD" wrote in message
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I think that six years old is a little too old to have an invisible
friend. As
a father, I would worry a little bit about my childs grip on reality. I'm
talking in terms of mental health not in terms of creativity, inventing
stories, and dressing up and pretending which are ways of reaching out and
actually getting in touch with the real world. Each situation is different
and
I just raise this issue as a concern not to be a spoiler.

I don't believe that an invisible friend is something bad. Remember the
movie "Harvey" with Jimmmy Stewart and the invisible rabbit. :-)

I think girls and boys approach chess tournaments in a different manner.
My daughter makes sure to bring either a stuffed animal, or her finger
nail polish (which she will apply during the game), etc. When I was at
the scholastic nationals, there was a group of girls wearing tiaras and
wearing shirts declaring themselves the queens of chess.

My son just grabs his chess set and is ready to play.

Marty

Jud McCranie wrote:
On 06 Mar 2004 03:24:45 GMT, (PJDBAD) wrote:


I think that six years old is a little too old to have an invisible friend.


Your comment got me to wondering, so I did a search. I found this
"Researchers are currently proposing that the creation of 'Invisible
Friends' is a healthy, adaptive behavior in the 60% of all children
under eight who experience them."

http://www.theoservice.org/Family/family.htm

So at this point I think it is still OK. Thank you for your concern.

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It's ok if your daughter has the invisible friend. I would only worry
if YOU start to hear the invisible friend. :-)

Marty

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On 06 Mar 2004 03:24:45 GMT, (PJDBAD) wrote:

I think that six years old is a little too old to have an invisible friend.

Your comment got me to wondering, so I did a search. I found this
"Researchers are currently proposing that the creation of 'Invisible
Friends' is a healthy, adaptive behavior in the 60% of all children
under eight who experience them."

http://www.theoservice.org/Family/family.htm

So at this point I think it is still OK. Thank you for your concern.

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